I told my mom she killed my dad.

My moms husband died just a few weeks ago. He had a long history of heart problems. A month or so before he died he needed to have blood drawn and ended up passing out while they were taking the blood. He fell and hit his head and broke his nose and got several stitches on his face. <br><br>Just a few days before he died he came down with a serious case of Covid. Because he already had poor heart health and was in his 70s, he was at a big risk for serious illness. <br><br>He was able to get a spot in a hospital in another city. He was only in there for a day or so before his heart failed. They were unable to resuscitate him. <br><br>I never knew this man but everyone says good things about him. My mom seems to be doing okay. <br><br>My reason for posting is that my mom insisted on flying the body from another city back to hers. She said that if she didn't do this my grandpa would never let her hear the end of it. I think that my grandpa believed that this would be the respectful/ proper thing to do. <br><br>I visited my mom after the funeral. I'm staying at her apartment for a few days. During this visit after everything had settled down I decided to make some statements about my grandpa. <br><br>I told my mom that I held my grandpa responsible for the death of her husband. I said that when he got sick, he was so weakened by the fall he had that it became fatal when he got sick. And he wouldn't have fallen if he didn't have to get his blood drawn for the stitches he got because of my grandpas insistence that his body be flown home. <br><br>I said that my grandpa is a very controlling man that always needs to be right. He's constantly interfering with everyone's lives and telling people what to do. He does this out of a sense of self importance and a need to be in charge. He doesn't care about anyone else. He doesn't care about my mom or her late husband. He sacrificed a lot of time and money for vanity. The vanity of thinking he's the boss and that everyone does what he says. <br><br>My mom didn't respond to this. But it's something I've been meaning to say for a while now. <br><br><br>Edit: I'd like to add that I've been feeling that the title doesn't really convey what I said. I think a lot of people are assuming I said he directly murdered my uncle by telling him to fly the body. That's not what I said. I said that my grandpas need for constant affirmation that he's in charge caused him to make his decision about the body. And that this decision killed my uncle, but in a roundabout way.