Why do people still insist that guys being sad and miserable in their 30s is due to a lack of self improvement?

I know that is not entirely true. I was in good shape, had a good career trajectory, was well read, had a good attitude, was a good conversationalist. <br><br>Despite all that, dating was an exhausting endeavor, and in the end I still came out bleak. Even with all that effort, I still just ended up alone. I am a normal looking guy, not some despicable being with no redeeming qualities. <br><br>All the self improvement in the world was not going to help me get a girlfriend.<br><br>I am glad I did it all, and my life as a loner is much better because of it. But it is not true that improving yourself will magically make women want to date you. That is a lie, and it is annoying to hear it stated as if it is a fact.