My (M28) wife (F26) keeps me up all night and then expects me to take care of our baby (M3mo) all day. I'm exhausted.

We have a 3 month old baby. Our baby is pretty great. He's sleeping in a bassinet in our room.<br><br>First issue: He always falls asleep on his mother. He falls asleep, and then wakes up moments after she lays him down. She says he's a baby that needs his mother. She refuses to let him cry for even a second.<br><br>Second issue: She always wakes me up. She will wake me up and say "It's your turn. I had the baby. Carry the baby. It'syour turn now."<br><br>Third issue: She doesn't let me get a break. During the day she will take the baby out to the car and drive around for hours with him because he only sleeps in the car. So I never get a break during the day. She drives around instead of letting him nap at home so I can nap too.<br><br>Fourth issue: I work 50 hours a week. I work a blue collar job. I am physically tired from work, not just sleepy.<br><br>Fifth issue: She gets to nap. Anytime she wants a nap, it's always on the strict condition that the baby is napping on her. If I suggest she nap without the baby, she says the baby needs to be held. If I offer to hold the baby, she says no. <br><br>Sixth issue: She keeps making the excuses she had the baby, and breastfeeding. I acknowledge her efforts. She does all the breastfeeding. She gives me the bottles for a few hours a night. That's why I am sleeping at night whereas she is up with the baby. I am impressed that she is willing to do this and it's not an easy job. I tell her this. She gets offended when I bring up my job, or my lack of sleep. She doesn't think my lack of sleep is a big deal because she's tired too.<br><br> Seventh issue: I'm tired. I'm so tired. I'm tired all the time and it's making it hard for me to do my job, or spend time with the baby, or be a good husband. I feel like I'm running on a treadmill and getting nowhere. I'm tired and it's starting to feel hopeless.<br><br>I've talked to her about this. She gets angry that I would even suggest splitting the work of the baby. I feel hopeless. Do I need to hire a nanny? What options are there to get her to help? What do I say to her? I'm sorry. I'm just so tired. I don't know what else to do.<br><br>Edit: She refuses help. I've offered to hire help. I've offered to quit work to hire help. She refuses. She says it's her job to raise the baby and that she is the best one to do it. I've offered to quit my job and raise the baby. I suggested we switch roles and she said she needs to work, not me, because her career is very important.