AITA for making my girlfriend apologize to my friend who she “babied” for being a single dad?

I (25m) have been dating my girlfriend (25f) for 3 years now and she has inserted herself pretty deeply into my life. I totally get that when you’re in a long term relationship with someone you should help each other out, but the issue is that she also does this with my friends- especially the single ones or the ones who have a GFM (gf mom). <br><br>Recently, she met Hunter (24m). He was a good friend of mine in highschool (we both graduated in 2020 and she was a year younger than us) and I hadn’t seen him in a while until he posted on Facebook about his girlfriend passing away. She was 10 weeks pregnant with their child at the time and he was absolutely heartbroken. <br><br>After the funeral, she insisted on visiting him, but only to say that she was sorry, give him some flowers, and then leave. When we got there, his mom was there, and so was his baby girl. I could tell that she was a little disappointed when she saw his mom was there, but what really got to her was that Hunter opened up about having a lot of issues with PPD and PPA, as well as finding it hard to do both jobs. <br><br>Then she asked Hunter if he needed help with his daughter and he said yes without telling her no because he’s polite. She’s been over there basically every single day for the last two months, as well as having them come to our place so she can still help out. <br><br>I had no problem with this, and neither did Hunter, but things started getting weird when she’d set up playdates for Emma (his daughter) with my friends’ kids and then proceed to also set up dates among Hunter and my other single friends (males and females) and she’d go and bug them when they said no. It got to the point where my friends started avoiding me because they didn’t want to be babysitted or set up with their friends, as well as the fact that we’d be hanging out and she’d randomly show up with Emma. <br><br>I finally put my foot down when she tried to change my friend’s plans and turn them into a playdate. She got very angry and said that she was just “trying to help” and that I was being mean for calling her out on it. <br><br>She then proceeded to show me screenshots of texts between her and Hunter where he was apparently telling her that she’d be perfect as a mom and that he wished I’d hurry up and propose because he was so grateful to have her in their lives. He also said that her motherly instinct impressed him and that he was a little worried that I would be a bad father because of how immature I am sometimes. <br><br>I was not happy about that, and I told her that instead of trying to parent me, she should go talk to Hunter and let him know that his comments were wildly inappropriate and that she wasn’t his mother or wife. I told her that I wasn’t going to propose to her unless she stopped babysitting him and that I didn’t want to be with someone who seemed to be after my friends. <br><br>She refused to do it and instead called me controlling and immature. <br><br>The next morning she took Emma to the park and left before I even woke up, and when I texted her she said that Hunter had asked her to and that I couldn’t stop her. I was angry and so I texted hunter and told him exactly what I told her, and that he had no right to comment on things that he had no idea about. He was very apologetic and said that he hadn’t meant to make things awkward between us. <br><br>Turns out that when she dropped Emma off she told him that I was angry with her for “helping him out” and that I was being controlling and mean to her because I’m immature. He then offered to come pick her up, and I told her if she was going to hang out with him like that, then she could just move in with him. <br><br>She told me that I was being serious and that I was kicking her out, and that she was going to go stay with her friend and I told her not to bother coming back until she was ready to apologize for trying to parent my friends and that I didn’t want to see her until she had actually talked things out with Hunter. <br><br>My friends have been split on this. Some of them said that I should’ve let her help and babysit as much as she wanted, while others said that I should’ve said something a long time ago before it got this bad. I feel really overwhelmed because I feel like if I didn’t say anything it would be over and I’d probably lose her, but if I do say something it’s already too late.